Loyalty: Love Across Time

Loyalty is love that lasts—the kind of love we all want. In the gentle embrace of loyal love is a safety that releases us and others from anxiety. That may be why marriage is one of the most supremely balancing and healthful commitments we can make in life, and why married men and women are more likely to live longer than their single counterparts. If we stay constant, to our families, friends, and close colleagues, we build a beauty into our love that can only be created with the passage of years. Answer these twenty questions to find out about your own capacity for loyalty

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A Bit About This Quiz

The quiz you are about to take is adapted from The Love and Longevity scale, which was created and tested by Dr. Stephen Post and colleagues of his at the University of Miami. It allows you to self-rate ten different giving behaviors. Score yourself now, and then again as you change and grow in your ways of giving. Please try to click the one option that best reflects your opinion about whether or not each statement below describes you or experiences that you have had. There are no correct answers, so please respond as honestly as possible to each one.  To learn more about weaving generous behavior into your own life and becoming a happier, healthier person, buy the book HERE.

1. I make sure that what's important to my family is important to me too.

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2. Members of my family know that they can always depend on me, rain or shine.

Strongly Disagree   Disagree   Slightly Disagree   Slightly Agree   Agree   Strongly Agree  

3. My family can always count on me as if I were a "teammate."

Strongly Disagree   Disagree   Slightly Disagree   Slightly Agree   Agree   Strongly Agree  

4. I think it's no big deal to move away from family for greener pastures.

Strongly Disagree   Disagree   Slightly Disagree   Slightly Agree   Agree   Strongly Agree  

5. I can think of lots of legitimate reasons for skipping chores or my family responsibilities.

Strongly Disagree   Disagree   Slightly Disagree   Slightly Agree   Agree   Strongly Agree  

6. Keeping my friends' welfare in mind is important to me.

Strongly Disagree   Disagree   Slightly Disagree   Slightly Agree   Agree   Strongly Agree  

7. Friends know that they can always depend on me, rain or shine.

Strongly Disagree   Disagree   Slightly Disagree   Slightly Agree   Agree   Strongly Agree  

8. When friends have problems, I don't really want to hear about it.

Strongly Disagree   Disagree   Slightly Disagree   Slightly Agree   Agree   Strongly Agree  

9. If I stop going to a club, a gym, or some other activity, I don't worry about whether I'll still have time for the friends I met there.

Strongly Disagree   Disagree   Slightly Disagree   Slightly Agree   Agree   Strongly Agree  

10. I make myself available to help my friends mostly when it suits me.

Strongly Disagree   Disagree   Slightly Disagree   Slightly Agree   Agree   Strongly Agree  

11. I am more concerned about how I could help a coworker or neighbor than about how much effort it could cost me.

Strongly Disagree   Disagree   Slightly Disagree   Slightly Agree   Agree   Strongly Agree  

12. Neighbors or coworkers can depend on me, rain or shine.

Strongly Disagree   Disagree   Slightly Disagree   Slightly Agree   Agree   Strongly Agree  

13. People in my neighborhood or at work can always count on me like a "teammate."

Strongly Disagree   Disagree   Slightly Disagree   Slightly Agree   Agree   Strongly Agree  

14. I mostly help coworkers or neighbors when it benefits me too.

Strongly Disagree   Disagree   Slightly Disagree   Slightly Agree   Agree   Strongly Agree  

15. I make myself available to help my neighbors or coworkers mostly when it serves me.

Strongly Disagree   Disagree   Slightly Disagree   Slightly Agree   Agree   Strongly Agree  

16. I try to make decisions about what to buy and how to spend my time according to what is good for humanity.

Strongly Disagree   Disagree   Slightly Disagree   Slightly Agree   Agree   Strongly Agree  

17. I think of the human race as a team of which we are all members.

Strongly Disagree   Disagree   Slightly Disagree   Slightly Agree   Agree   Strongly Agree  

18. I am more concerned about how I could benefit society than about how much effort the activity could cost me.

Strongly Disagree   Disagree   Slightly Disagree   Slightly Agree   Agree   Strongly Agree  

19. I would not feel bad if I'm too busy to volunteer my time to organizations or activities that are good for society.

Strongly Disagree   Disagree   Slightly Disagree   Slightly Agree   Agree   Strongly Agree  

20. I just don't feel much loyalty to people, especially ones I don't know.

Strongly Disagree   Disagree   Slightly Disagree   Slightly Agree   Agree   Strongly Agree