Respect: Look Deeper and Find Value

The essence of respect is acceptance—to hold another as irreducibly valuable. To respect another is to look past first impressions and truly understand another person's history, struggles, life journey and perspectives. One of the most healing acts of life is to value and respect yourself and others. Respect can take four basic forms: tolerance, civility, acceptance, and reverence. Answer these twenty questions to find out about your own capacity for respect.

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A Bit About This Quiz

The quiz you are about to take is adapted from The Love and Longevity scale, which was created and tested by Dr. Stephen Post and colleagues of his at the University of Miami. It allows you to self-rate ten different giving behaviors. Score yourself now, and then again as you change and grow in your ways of giving. Please try to click the one option that best reflects your opinion about whether or not each statement below describes you or experiences that you have had. There are no correct answers, so please respond as honestly as possible to each one.  To learn more about weaving generous behavior into your own life and becoming a happier, healthier person, buy the book HERE.

1. In discussions I make it a point to really listen to my family members' opinions.

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2. I believe that I always can gain something from considering the perspectives of my family members.

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3. I make it a point to acknowledge the efforts and aspirations of people in my family.

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4. Even when I don't get my way in family decisions, I let my family members know that I respect their right to their own opinions.

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5. I don't think it's that important to let my family members know that I respect them.

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6. I believe that I always can gain something from hearing a friend's perspective.

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7. I try to make my friends feel important.

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8. Regardless of a friend's origins, upbringing, or background, I try to communicate my respect for them.

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9. I have trouble seeing the value in a friend's opinion when it is very different from my own.

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10. I can get disrespectful when it comes to talking to friends about issues we disagree on.

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11. In discussions I make it a point to really listen to the opinions of my neighbors or coworkers.

Strongly Disagree   Disagree   Slightly Disagree   Slightly Agree   Agree   Strongly Agree  

12. I believe that I always can gain something from hearing the perspective of my coworkers or neighbors.

Strongly Disagree   Disagree   Slightly Disagree   Slightly Agree   Agree   Strongly Agree  

13. I try to communicate my respect for people at work or in my community, regardless of their origin, upbringing, or background.

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14. I don't see the value in the perspective of a neighbor or coworker when it is so far from my own.

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15. It's not that important to treat people at work or in my community respectfully when we admittedly disagree on things.

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16. The world would be a better place if everyone tried to understand the point of view of other people.

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17. Every person has unique value.

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18. People should make it a point to acknowledge the efforts and aspirations of others around them.

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19. I don't see the value in other people's perspectives when they are far from my own.

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20. I can become somewhat disrespectful when talking with someone with whom I disagree.

Strongly Disagree   Disagree   Slightly Disagree   Slightly Agree   Agree   Strongly Agree